The Whys Matter, Sometimes


We don’t always need to know the whys.

I am a big fan of context. That’s part of why I tell terrible stories. Throughout my “stories”, I frequently introduce new information and then describe some entire other event because I think it holds critical and relevant information (it usually doesn’t). What should be a simple two-minute story typically turns into a 10-minute jumbled mess.

While the importance of knowing whether it was a Tuesday or Wednesday when I experienced something several years ago is debatable, understanding the context in many other situations is of great importance.

The whys aren’t necessary. As a tasty example, I don’t need to know how ice cream is made in order to enjoy it. I don’t need to have a working knowledge of why the body recognizes ice cream as pleasurable. Knowing the history of ice cream and the process by which it is made could very likely increase my appreciation of it. Yet, this information is not needed to live and make decisions.

Reflecting on the context and effects of past events has many benefits. One of the purposes of studying history is to apply it to present day, so we don’t repeat our mistakes.¬†While there are not always direct connections from events in history to current issues, there are more similarities than we expect. Continue reading

Chasing Certainty & Welcoming Uncertainty

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Absolute faith in what we are doing with no doubts on the horizon; it sounds remarkable.

Yet as good as it sounds, I am starting to believe that it is unattainable. Especially for some people.

I count myself as someone who strongly desire certainty.

I frequently wonder:

Am I doing the right thing?

How can I tell?

What do I want?

How do I know for sure?

How will I look back on this decision?

Soon I can find myself constantly checking to see if I am sure. I try to look for a sign that will make sense of everything and erase all my doubts. Usually, once I think I have made it to that point, a thought or question pops up and I am unsure once again.

Making little progress in chasing after certainty, I have resolved to develop a better relationship with uncertainty. Continue reading

To Be Known

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This whole blogging thing is weird at times. It is weird to think that other people are reading the words I have written. Whether they are family members, friends, or strangers, people throughout the world are stumbling on to this blog and reading what I have to say. The fact that people are reading a blog is not stunning; that’s usually what happens to blogs. What is most perplexing is that this blog is connected to a person, to me.

Part of the reason this blog’s official name is Wonders in the Wind: Towards the Alignment of Thoughts and Actions, is to give it a specific purpose. The name suggests what this blog about. Another reason is because it personally helps to have a name to hide behind. Since this blog is not my name, I can separate myself a bit from the blog.

As a recovering wallflower, the idea of people seeking out things I do is kind of unfamiliar. I deeply appreciate that people are reading and commenting, but it is a pretty odd experience. Also, it’s sometimes difficult to promote my new blog posts because I don’t want to annoy people or take up a bunch of their time. Nor do I want to this blog to be all about me. Because it is definitely not. It’s about sharing my perspective and interacting with people who have their own unique perspective.

By blogging consistently I have to be a little more open about myself, which is frightening at times because there are many valid concerns about people actually knowing me. They might not like what I have to say, they might disagree or dismiss my opinion, and so on.

It’s great to talk about being known and having the courage to be honest, but actually living that out can be a challenge. If you find yourself in shoes similar to the ones I wear sometimes, it helps to have some practical ways to work on being comfortable with yourself and letting yourself be known. Here are a few ways I have been trying to implement that. Continue reading