Right. Back. Where. We. Started.

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Does anything ever really change? Or is it only more of the same, with different people and settings?

What are we to do when we set off in a new direction and come to a place that is all too familiar?

As we first step out we are excited about the change. Our hearts swell with freedom as we take a fresh breath of air. Like getting rid of clothes that no longer fit, we have discarded the person or place that imposed limits on us. On our side is the joy that comes with good health after a long spell of sickness. We feel empowered to be leaving behind what was holding us back.

Endless possibilities await us.

Then, the initial charm that newness brought diminishes, as expected. We settle in and start to find our footing in a new environment. There is a type of loneliness that comes with joining a new group. Sure, people may welcome us and appear friendly. But we are still new, not fully part of their established system. Continue reading

Behind The Redesign: Room To Grow

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You might notice Wonders In The Wind looks a little different. That’s because this is the first post on the brand new blog design!

I have been working on redesigning the blog for the last couple of weeks, and the time to reveal it is finally here. I really enjoy the new design, and I hope you do too!

The idea to redesign the blog came to me about two weeks ago. I entertained the thought, and imagined it taking place several weeks or months down the line. But the more I thought of the different changes I could make, and I got more excited and decided to have the new design up in the matter of two weeks.

Growing up I rearranged my room quite frequently for the fun of it. I liked the challenge of getting used to something different. Also, it helped me keep an open mind about the way things look.

Being open to a redesign can be equated to being open to the possibility that perhaps I’ll like something else more. Continue reading

Thankful For…Week 5

This week I am thankful for…
The nEArIng End OF tHe school yEaR

GoOglE CalEndar tO HELP StAy oRgANized

abIlitY to TAke on ChalleNgES

the fEeling of coMPlEtinG a proJEct

reaLizing ThaT i DIdnT hAvE QUIte as muCh TO Do aS I IniTIaLly thougHT

The cOMfort in KnowinG That I hAve made it throUGH 100% oF my RouGh TImEs

21 Ways To Live In Balance

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We live in a world that can change quickly. In my opinion, life isn’t about trying to get to a place where we are on stable ground. Rather, I think life should be about getting experienced at maintaining balance. We don’t always get to choose what happens, so I think it is important for us all to strengthen our resiliency. Sometimes it seems like life isn’t pulling any punches, and other times we feel like we just won the fight of our lives. Either way, if we should realize that issues are rarely clear-cut; many things exist on a spectrum. Because there are so many possibilities in our lives, we should try to be prepared for whatever comes.

In honor of recently celebrating my 21st birthday, here are twenty-one ways we can find and maintain balance: Continue reading

Self-Compassion (Part 2: What It Is Not)

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In last week’s post, we took an opening glance at the concept of self-compassion. We outlined the work of psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff, and took some time to understand what self-compassion is. As a reminder, the three elements of self-compassion are self-kindness, common humanity, mindfulness.

This week we will further clarify this idea by explaining in detail what it is not. The converse of the three components of self-compassion are self-judgment, isolation, and over-identification.

1. Self-judgment. Part of the idea of self-compassion is that we show ourselves kindness instead of judgment. Criticizing ourselves is harmful and often not fair. Evaluation can be helpful, but there is a point where we feel more helpless than motivated to change. Continue reading

Self-Compassion (Part 1: What It Is)

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This week is the first post of a short, two-part series on self-compassion. In this starting post I will introduce the term and explain what it is. I first found out about this concept a little over a year ago while looking for a topic to conduct a research project on for a course. Dr. Kristen Neff is a leading researcher of this construct, and has written and spoken extensively on this topic.

Many of us are familiar with the term compassion, but self-compassion seems to be less understood. I’m sure many of us could make some educated guesses, but I think it would be helpful to hear from the expert herself.

“Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings – after all, who ever said you were supposed to be perfect?” (From: self-compassion.org)

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